Whether you are looking to adopt a new habit, bounce back from a tragedy or embrace a new life, making these significant changes can be hard. Awfully hard.
It’s one thing to desire and dream about living a certain life but bringing this into reality is a whole different ball game.
The fear of failure, fear of change, fear of uncertainty and excuses all contribute to the resistance that keeps us from creating the life we really want.
Is there a way to break free from this resistance and turn your life around? Here’s how to get started:
To change your life, you need to be very clear about what you want this life to look like and who you want to become.
A major reason why many people do not live the life of their dreams is that they lack clarity about what it is that they really want.
If you are unclear about what you really want, it will be hard to change your life. It’s very likely that you will find yourself stuck in the same spot for years and years.
How do you gain clarity and set intentions for yourself? A simple exercise is to start imaging your ideal life—what would it look like? Who would be there? What would you be doing? Thinking these thoughts daily will help you gain the clarity and motivation you need to change your life forever.
If you want to create a new picture for your life, you need to take new action. It is one thing to dream and imagine it, but it is something entirely different to make it happen.
To bring your new life into reality, you cannot continue with your old actions; new ones are required.
Habit-changing experts recommend that you start with small, very simple actions that will add up to bring the change you desire.
So, after being clear about what you want to achieve, outline at least one action that you need to start taking toward creating the life you really want.
For example, if you want to change careers, take the simple step of doing online research about your desired career and the available opportunities.
The thing about committing to taking new action is that one little action leads to the next and the next.
Do you think you are too busy to implement new action steps so you can live the life you really desire? Everyone is busy but the most successful people know how to carve out time to do whatever it takes to make their dreams a reality.
Lack of time is the biggest excuse people make for not taking action. But, did you know that you are mostly in control of how you manage your time?
Carve out just a few minutes a day to do what is important to change your life. Exercising and living healthfully can be very difficult to implement. But once you identify the little action step that needs to be taken toward a healthy life, set aside just a few minutes in your day to exercise or prepare a healthy meal.
Identify activities that you can cut out to create time for more meaningful action. Cut down on your TV time, trim back the time you spend on social media, spend less time doing unnecessary chores, delegate so you can squeeze in time for your new actions that will allow you to experience the beginning of the new you.
If you are really committed to change and to creating your desired life, you need to establish a serious accountability system.
Research shows that telling others about what you want to accomplish and asking them to keep you accountable gets you motivated to take action to avoid embarrassment.
You want people to know you as a ‘man/woman of your word.’ This means that after setting an intention and declaring it publicly, you need to do what it takes to bring the intention into a reality.
People respect others who go through with what they set out to do. More importantly, you will develop resilience, a higher self-esteem and a sustained sense of self-efficacy when you keep your word and accomplish what you said you would.
A common trend among people who are living the life they have always wanted is their ability to stay really committed to creating that reality every day through their actions and thoughts. Changing your life is not a sprint; rather it is a marathon that entails a series of small but sustained new steps and habits that take you to your destination.