At the surface, every single person wants to be successful. We dream about it, we chase after it and we struggle for it. But, few people ever attain the level of success that they wish for. Ironically, even though one may want success they may also feel that they do not deserve the experience of success. At the same time, among those who are successful, some may feel that they are not worthy of their present achievements. The constant feeling that you are not deserving of success is a form of self-sabotage. If you are already successful say at work, feeling that you are unworthy of your achievements could easily cause you to become so anxious that you start to make mistakes and poor decisions that erode your previous success. Equally, by not truly believing that you deserve success, you could easily become entrapped in a cycle of perpetual failure. How do you start to truly believe that you deserve success?
A major reason why some people are so afraid of success and progress is that they care too much about what others think of them. It is as though they require other people’s approval to start pursuing their dreams. To start owning your success you need to make the decision to follow your own intuition and pursue your goals without allowing other people’s opinions to hinder your own progress. For example, if you ordinarily consult several friends or family members before making a decision, start by making a small decision on your own without consulting them. Relying too much on others’ input is a sign of a lack of self-confidence in your capacity; making those decisions on your own is a belief in your own efficacy.
When it comes to achieving success, the past can make or break you. Often, many people allow the past to negatively impact the progress of their life to an extent that they stop believing that they deserve the good things. For example, people who had a traumatic past such as experiencing poverty, abuse, violence and failure have a difficult time believing that they are worthy of a different life than that they experienced in the past. But, making peace with your past is entirely possible. A good first step in the right direction is to separate whichever past incident that is holding you back from your identity.
Letting go of your past allows you to start from a new slate so that your past story no longer interferes with your present and future progress.
Let’s face it: The most successful people have many things in common and a healthy mindset is one of them. To get to a place where you feel worthy of your success requires a particular kind of thinking. This type of thinking allows you to remind yourself that you are adequate, capable, resourceful, efficacious and able to overcome challenges. Admittedly, nurturing a healthy mindset that supports success is a work in progress. Changing your environment and placing yourself in the midst of people who are succeeding and have a positive mindset can be helpful in laying out a foundation for your own journey in positive thinking. The great thing about nurturing a mindset of resilience, achievement and progress is that these values gradually become your default habit and you will no longer need to try so hard to change your habits as time goes by.
Both spiritual and non-spiritual people are held back by their preconceived beliefs about success. For the spiritual, the feeling of not deserving success may result from the erroneous preconceived belief that richness or power is evil. On the other hand, a lot of non-spiritual people are of the opinion that others (not them) deserve success. Difficult as it may be, it is important to re-evaluate your spiritual beliefs to see whether they are serving you.
It might be time to let go of preconceived perceptions that are an obstacle to your own progress.
An important characteristic of successful people is a belief in their self-efficacy—a belief that they are able to influence their outcomes. It is from this that the feeling of worthiness and deserving of success emanates. The truth is, you can create a new reality if you wish to – but unless you believe deep in your heart that you deserve it then that reality will be limited by you. Isn’t it time you gave yourself permission to thrive?
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